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Krishna went to his mother, Yashoda, and turned on the full force of his charm. "Mother," he said, "I want you to send a message to Radha's family, asking for her hand in marriage." Yashoda thought this was another of Krishna's pranks. But when Krishna persisted she replied firmly and clearly. She said, " You cannot marry Radha for several reasons. She is engaged to Aiyyan. You are the son of a chief and her family is much lower in status. She is older than you. And she is a brazen girl, totally unfit to be a wife." Krishna then used his final weapon. He threatened that his mother would not only lose a lovely daughter-in-law if she refused, but also her son. Yashoda then asked him to settle the matter with his father. So Krishna went to Nand and repeated his request. His father said with a wink, "I have noticed that you are spending more and more time with the girls lately. No wonder you want one for yourself. There are many chieftains who would willingly wed their daughters to you." Krishna interrupted and said that he wanted to marry Radha and not a chieftain's daughter. The arguments were repeated. Finally Nand said he was no match for Krishna in a debate. Their family priest, Sage Garg, was arriving the next day and Nand would refer the matter to him. Krishna told Sage Garg that since he and Radha desired each other, they should get married. Garg replied that desire as a reason for mating is the way of animals. The matching of temperaments, family backgrounds and future plans should be considered while selecting a spouse. Krishna stated that even as per these considerations he could not find any fault with his choice. Radha's temperament was perfectly matched to his, their family backgrounds were similar and both of them would be spending the rest of their lives in Vrindavan doing what the men and women of Vrindavan had always been doing. Sage Garg then said, "I think it is time to tell you the truth about your birth. You are the eighth son of Prince Vasudev and Devaki. It was prophesied that you would kill your maternal uncle Kansa and deliver the Yadava race from his tyranny. Hence you were secretly brought to Gokul and were brought up as the son of Nand and Yashoda. The great sage Vyasa has foretold that you will be the leader of the Yadava race and the saviour of all humanity. Hence I have brought Sage Sandipani with me, who is to begin your education in the scriptures, procedures of governance and the art of warfare. We all have great expectations of you. Radha is a village girl. She will not be a suitable companion in this endeavour. That is why we are against this marriage." Krishna quietly digested what had been said and then replied softly but firmly. "First of all I would like to aver that Nand and Yashoda are my parents and I will always look upon them as such. Then I would request you to keep the story of my birth a secret from the people of Vrindavan till it is time for me to leave. If they learn the truth then their attitude towards me will change and this I will not be able to bear. You say that I am to deliver all humanity from suffering. I cannot begin this formidable task by thrusting the person who loves me the most into unbearable suffering. From the moment Radha saw me tied to the mortar eight years ago, there has not been a single day that she has not waited for me. With every breath that she has drawn she has taken my name. For her spring comes when I come to meet her and winter begins when I leave her. If I had died fighting Kaliya, the poisonous snake, many in Vrindavan would have been heart broken. Mother would have never stopped crying and father would have lost his smile forever. But Radha would have given up her life there and then. Radha lives for me and in me and I live for her and in her. If you prevent this marriage, you will be depriving me of the right and power to carry out the great tasks you want me to. I beseech you with folded hands to grant your consent." Sage Garg was overcome by the rationality and intensity of this speech. He gave his consent. Radha's joy knew no bound. And in the celebrations that followed Aiyyan was forgotten. ---------
The news that Krishna was leaving spread like wildfire throughout Vrindavan. The youth sensed that they were losing a staunch friend; the maidens sensed that they were losing a man of their dreams and Radha.... Before Radha could even begin to ponder upon the consequences, the melodious sound of a flute wafted throughout the village. The women left what they were doing and ran to the Madhuban. There was no time to wear their ornaments or comb their hair. While running they tried to arrange their clothes to give an appearance of modesty but soon gave up. Radha picked up her anklets and raced ahead of everyone else, her bosom heaving with excitement. Her Kahn was calling her. Krishna was standing in his usual spot, his right leg crossed over his left, and playing his flute with gay abandon. Radha cuddled up to him and began to sway in the rhythm of his music. The other maidens formed circles around them and began to dance. The men folk, the elders and children too had come there, but were watching from a distance, so as not to embarrass the dancers. Every maiden wanted Krishna to dance only with her, every maiden imagined that Krishna was dancing only with her and the spectators could see a multitude of Krishnas, each dancing separately with one of the lasses. Such is the power of love; such is the power of faith. This was the Maharasa or the "great dance". When the dancing stopped Krishna and Radha were missing. Radha and Krishna were heading for their favourite nook in the Madhuban, near the Yamuna river. Radha was in Krishna's arms, her tousled head resting on his shoulder. "Will you always be like this, Kahn?" asked Radha. "Always," he replied, "Till the sun and the moon endure." But Radha was not satisfied by this assurance. "Will you always remember me?" she asked. "How can I forget you," replied Krishna, "You are my Goddess of beauty and joy." They reached their destination and huddled close together on the mossy grass. They kissed tentatively at first, but the pent-up passions soon engulfed them and they united in body and soul. After a while Radha got up and began to tie her disheveled tresses into a knot. "Will we always be together after we are married," she inquired uncertainly. Krishna replied that they were inseparable and that they had just got married according to the Gandharva tradition. According to the this tradition, sexual intercourse among consenting couples was tantamount to the marriage rituals provided the male was of royal descent. "You will always be my prince," said Radha, "but you are not of royal blood. And I do not regret our love making so you do not have to justify it." Then Krishna narrated the story of his birth, of his being the redeemer and his leaving for Mathura before dawn. Radha let the whole narration sink in and appeared to be forming some decisions of her own. "Is there anything that can make you stay?" she asked. "Nothing can hold me from my destiny and my duty." Replied Krishna firmly. "Why do you worry? Are you afraid that I will die at Kansa's hands? It will be over soon and then I will call you to Mathura" "No, I am sure that you will kill Kansa. And then you will become the king of the Yadavas. A lot of people will look up to you, will bow down before you, and will depend on you. You will become the saviour of humanity," said Radha. "And you will be my queen, by my side always," added Krishna. "No," replied Radha surely. "I am a poor cowherd girl. I will be lost in the palace intrigues. There will be many princesses wooing you and wanting you at any cost. I will be awkward and gawky compared to them. This village girl will be a handicap to you in your new avatar. For you will undeniably change. Your life will be filled with politics and manipulations. You will fight wars and participate in destruction. That will be a part of your destiny and I don't pass judgment. But the Kahn I loved was a cowherd boy, whose calling in life was to graze cattle, who played the flute and danced in the woods and whose crown was a peacock feather and weapon was a bamboo staff. I will not be able to see you in any other form." Radha was now sobbing convulsively and Krishna has to take her in his arms to calm her down. After regaining her composure Radha continued. "Please listen to me Kahn! Let me stay here and take care of your parents. Here in Vrindavan I will see you in the waters of the Yamuna, the slopes of Govardhan and the trees of Madhuban and hence I will always be with the Kahn I knew." They sat silently for a while reflecting on the past, savouring the last moments of togetherness and coming to terms with the future. Krishna broke the silence. "You are right Radha. In Mathura I will have to change and if you come with me then you will have to change as well. I will not be the Krishna you knew and you will not be the Radha I knew. We will not be able to replicate the magic we weaved here. And without either of us here, Vrindavan too will wither away. But if you stay back, then Vrindavan will become an enduring shrine to our love and you will be its deity." Krishna then told Radha that preparations had been made for them to get married in the Vedic manner and since the auspicious moment was drawing near they should return. Radha requested that Krishna leave his flute behind as a gift to her and Krishna readily agreed. It was time for the final parting. The villagers had turned out to personally meet Krishna. Radha stood beside her mother in law, dressed in bridal finery, her face covered modestly by her sari. From time to time she looked up at Krishna, each glance a pledge of eternal devotion. Krishna's eyes met Radha's each time and he smiled at her reassuringly. Any other communication in front of the elders would be out of place. So no words were said and no hands touched. Krishna touched his mother's feet and mounted the bullock cart with Nand, Balaram and Akrura. Radha looked without blinking at the cart till it disappeared round the corner and then fainted.
Radha and krishna got married in secret
When Krishna was a little boy of five, his father, Nanda, took him to the field where the cattle were grazing. Krishna wanted to spring a surprise on his father, so he created a severe thunderstorm. It began to rain heavily and the trees were tossing wildly.Although Krishna was responsible for the storm, he pretended that he knew nothing. He started crying and screaming, and he clung to his father for Protection. Nanda was trying desperately to protect his child and also the cattle. He found that he could not manage to do the two things simultaneously, and so he was in a terrible predicament. All of a sudden, a most beautiful woman appeared. Nanda was very relieved to see this unknown woman who had come at such a crucial moment. “Would you kindly take care of my child?” he asked. “I must take the cattle home now. Then I will come back. I am sure that you will be able to protect my son.”“Do not worry. I will definitely take good care of your child,” the woman assured Nanda. Nanda departed for home with the frightened cattle. When Krishna and the woman were alone together, Krishna did something extraordinary. He created a most enchanting scene and took the form of a youth. This youth was dark-skinned; he wore an orange cloth and on his forehead there was a peacock feather. In his hands, he held a flute which he was playing so hauntingly. Krishna looked at the woman and asked her, “Do you remember this Scene, when we were in Goloka Vrindabvan(Spiritual World),The unknown woman was Radha(Identification Revealed by Garga Rishi), who was Krishna’s dearest beloved. Radha replied, “I do remember this incident. It is very vivid to me.” Krishna was showing Radha a scene from their life together in Goloka Vrindabvan(Spiritual World)before they took incarnation on earth. He wanted to remind Radha of their eternal relationship. At that moment, there appeared Brahma, the Creator. For 60,000 years he had been praying to the Highest only to have a glimpse of Radha. In his meditation, he had seen Krishna and Radha together on earth and he was deeply moved. So he came personally to see Radha, who was the embodiment of the Universal Force.Then Brahmaji performed their marriage as a pandit.
Source bramhavaivarta purana
yadā yuvāṁ prīti-yutau ca dam-patī
parāt parau tāv anurūpa-rūpitau
vidhiṁ vivāhasya tu kārayāmy aham
Greater than the greatest and perfect for each other, You are already a loving husband and wife. Still, following the ways of this world, I will now perform Your wedding-ceremony.
tadā sa utthāya vidhir hutāśanaṁ
prajvalya kuṇḍe sthitayos tayoḥ puraḥ
śruteḥ kara-grāha-vidhiṁ vidhānato
vidhāya dhātā samavasthito 'bhavat
Then Brahmā rose, ignited the sacred fire, and performed the Vedic wedding-ceremony of the divine couple.
sa vāhayām āsa hariṁ ca rādhikāṁ
tataś ca tau taṁ praṇamayya veda-vit
tau pāṭhayām āsa ca sapta-mantrakam
Brahmā performed the wedding-ceremony of Lord Hari and Śrī Rādhikā. He had Them circumambulate the sacred fire and bow down before it, and then Brahmā, the knower of the Vedas, recited the seven mantras.
tato harer vakṣasi rādhikāyāḥ
karaṁ ca saṁsthāpya hareḥ karaṁ punaḥ
śrī-rādhikāyāḥ kila pṛṣṭha-deśake
saṁsthāpya mantrāṁś ca vidhiḥ prapāṭhayan
Placing Śrī Rādhikā's hand on Lord Hari's chest and Lord Hari's hand on Śrī Rādhikā's back, Brahmā recited many mantras.
rādhā karābhyāṁ pradadau ca mālikāṁ
kiñjalkinīṁ kṛṣṇa-gale 'linādinīm
hareḥ karābhyāṁ vṛṣabhānujā gale
tataś ca vahniṁ praṇamayya veda-vit
Then with both hands Śrī Rādhā placed on Lord Kṛṣṇa's neck a lotus garland filled the the humming of bees. Then with both hands Lord Hari placed on Śrī Rādhā's neck a similar garland. Then Brahmā had Them bow down before the sacred fire.
samvāsayām āsa su-pīṭhayoś ca tau
kṛtāñjalī mauna-yutau pitāmahaḥ
tau pāṭhayām āsa tu pañca-mantrakaṁ
samarpya rādhāṁ ca piteva kanyakām
Placing the silent divine couple on two thrones, with folded hands Brahmā recited five mantras. Then, as a father gives away his daughter, Brahmā gave away Śrī Rādhā.
puṣpāni devā vavṛṣus tadā nṛpa
vidyādharībhir nanṛtuḥ surāṅganāḥ
sa-kinnarāḥ kṛṣṇa-su-maṅgalaṁ jaguḥ
O king, then the demigods showered flowers, and the demigoddesses danced with the Vidyādharīs. The Gandharvas, Vidyādharas, Cāraṇas, and Kinnaras sang auspicious songs glorifying Lord Kṛṣṇa.
śaṅkhānakā dundubhayaḥ sa-tālakāḥ
nedur muhur deva-varair divi sthitair
jayety abhūn maṅgala-śabdam uccakaiḥ
Again and again the great demigods in heaven sounded many mṛdaṅgas, vīṇās, murus, yaṣṭis, veṇus, śaṅkhas, anakas, and tālakas. Calling out "Glory!" they made an auspicious sound.
uvāca tatraiva vidhiṁ hariḥ svayaṁ
yathepsitaṁ tvaṁ vada vipra dakṣiṇām
tadā hariṁ prāha vidhiḥ prabho me
dehi tvad-aṅghryor nija-bhakti-dakṣiṇam
When Lord Hari said to Brahmā, "Please ask whatever you wish as dakṣiṇā," Brahmā replied to Lord Hari, "O Lord, as dakṣiṇā please give me devotion for Your feet."
tathāstu vākyaṁ vadato vidhir hareḥ
śrī-rādhikāyāś ca pada-dvayaṁ śubham
natvā karābhyāṁ śirasā punaḥ punar
jagāma gehaṁ praṇataḥ praharṣitaḥ
When Lord Hari said "So be it", Brahmā again and again placed His head at the beautiful and auspicious feet of Lord Hari and Śrī Rādhikā. Then, happy and humbly bowing down, Brahmā left for his own home.
The time was fast approaching for Krishna’s father to come and take his son home,Krishna became a little child again. He started crying pitifully for his father to come and claim him. After some time, Nanda had still not appeared and Radha became very worried. She was wondering what to do when she heard a voice telling her to take the child to Nanda’s house.Radha was so sad and miserable that she had to return Krishna to his parents after being reunited with him on earth. She was afraid that she would not be able to see him anymore. But the voice told her, “Take the child back to Nanda and Yashoda. If you listen to me, I assure you that you will be able to go and see your Lord Krishna every evening. You will meet him and he will play his flute for you. A part of your heart will always remain with him.”
Source Garga Samhita Canto One Chapter Sixteen Śrī Rādhikā-vivāha-varṇana
Garga Samhita which describes marriage between radha and krishna was composed by Garga Muni,the family priest of family of Nanda, (the foster-father of Krishna) He named Krishna as "Krishna" after receiving the name by meditation.
He married all the gopis(Expansion Of Radha)including Radha.during the year when brahma stole the cowheard bows and cows, krishna expanded as them and they were married off that year to the gopis
Source Srimad Bhagavatham